Living in an adult world can be very hard sometimes. As if money matters and legal responsibilities aren’t enough, there’s that conflict and friction you have between someone you know at work, or maybe even at home. How did things become so hard to settle? Just when you thought you grew up a well-rounded person, this fight with your colleague, your friend, or your loved one just explodes out of nowhere. All these emotions you’ve kept bottled up for so long—how do you even begin to explain it in a way that can be understood?
If you’ve felt this before—chances are you’re going to feel it again. But the good news is that you are not alone on this. We have gathered up a few tips to help you resolve fights quicker. It might just work on you.
After all’s been said and done, breathe. What you have already said can no longer be taken back, but you need to catch your breath in order for you to think more clearly, more rationally. Understand that it takes two to tango, and you’re probably not the only one who has a thing or two to say.
These two words have been tossed around way too often, but not a lot of people can even fathom what it really means. To listen means to understand, and to take into consideration that you might have also offended that person, or have gone as far as to cause that other person so much pain—without you even knowing it.
Experts have sworn by the effectiveness of beginning your sentences with these words. By saying this, you are actually implying that this is your sentiment, and that there is no one to blame. This further avoids the unnecessary and very hurtful manner of pointing of fingers, which can raise even more conflicts rather than resolving it.
Meet Each Other Halfway
You can’t expect improvement without a plan. Like anything else that matters, you need to make sure that you come up with a solution that you both agree on. Yes, sitting down as mature adults still works. Come to think of it, nothing will ever work without you trying to meet each other halfway. Always remember that.
Smile and the Whole World Smiles with You
After all that hard work just to arrive at a conclusion, allow yourself to smile. Actually, you can go as far as to touching the other person’s hand or giving them a pat on the back to prove your sincerity. The percentage of you getting better results becomes bigger that way.
Stick to these tips the next time you find yourself face to face with anger. You can ignore it, but it will never go away. So look it in the eye. Be man (or woman) enough to overcome it. You’ll thank yourself one day.